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My Boyfriend Asked Me to Move in with Him

The Relationship Question

My boyfriend asked me to move in with him, and I did for about two months. I moved into my own apartment despite him wanting me to stay at his house. I’m spending the night at his house about four days a week. I keep a toothbrush and some clothes there but I have a hard time explaining the situation when people ask me where exactly I live. I only moved to my apartment because it was already paid for. Where exactly should I claim to live then?

The Relationship Advice

Thank you for sharing your situation. It’s up to you to decide what you want to say. The general idea is to be open and candid about any relationship you’re in and just let people know what’s going on.

You might find it helpful to take some time to figure out what you want to say and talk it over with your boyfriend. You get to decide what kind of relationships you have and how you want to be treated. If you’re curious about exactly where the relationship is going you can have some calm and kind conversations with your boyfriend where you tell him what you need and listen to him as well so you can both be on the same page.

It’s always a good idea to make sure you’re treating yourself well along the way and that you’re comfortable with where the relationship is headed.

I Missed My Chance

The Relationship Question

I really missed my chance with my crush. He liked me a lot, I could tell, but I was too insecure and scared to show him how I felt. I wouldn’t keep the texts going, I didn’t ask him to hang out, I didn’t do anything when I had the chance. His friend was messaging me too, and it was easy to message that guy because I wasn’t interested. We stopped talking and, since then, he has gotten a girlfriend, but I still want to tell him how I feel and how I was scared to show him how I felt because his best friend told me that he was sleeping with this other girl so, when he cancelled our plans, I overreacted and assumed he wasn’t into me. I thought he would ask to me to hang out if he wanted to, but I just gave him the impression that I didn’t like him and now it’s too late. I want to tell him how I feel, is that wrong? What if I just said, “Hey, I’m happy for you, and I’m not trying to ruin anything, I know it’s too late, I just want to explain.” This guy liked me so much for so long, but I was too scared to show him my feelings, I acted completely uninterested and he started dating someone else. I still can’t get over him, should I tell him how I feel and apologize for playing games? I just can’t believe I missed my chance.

The Relationship Advice

Thank you for sharing your situation. You get to decide what you do in any relationship. Perhaps you might ask yourself a few questions to decide what you want to do next, such as:

  • What can I do that will lead in a positive direction?
  • What worked in the past, what didn’t and what would I do differently in the future?
  • How can I take care of myself and make sure I’m living a great life?
  • What would be the result of anything I decide to do?
  • What do I need to do to heal and forgive myself that doesn’t involve anyone else?
  • What have I learned and how will I use it to move forward?

Take some time to think about questions like these and you’ll eventually decide what you need to do. The key is to make sure you treat yourself and others well and make positive decisions. You get to decide what’s appropriate and what’s not and what will help you live a positive life.

Remember that you deserve to learn from your past experiences and be with someone who is fully available for you.

He Broke off Our Relationship for Her

The Relationship Question

Two years ago, my boyfriend of six years lied to me about who his ex girlfriend was (he went as far as getting her name tattooed on him, telling me it was his goddaughter). She paid for him to go see her and he broke up with me to go. She is back in the picture and calling him, and he is calling her when I’m not around. I confronted him and he got angry. Now, he won’t speak to me. He broke off our relationship for her once, is it wrong for me to be upset?

The Relationship Advice

Thank you for sharing your situation. You get to decide how you behave in a relationship and how you want your significant other to treat you. You show him how to treat you by what behavior you’re willing to accept.

You might want to take some time to think about what kind of relationship you want and how you want to be treated. In a healthy relationship, the other person is there for you exclusively and treats you respectfully. It’s always a good idea to do things in your life that help you take care of yourself and move in a positive direction. Perhaps you might think about taking a breath and taking a break from the situation so you can get some perspective on what to do next. Think in terms of what will help you enjoy your life and celebrate the great person you are.

Your feelings are never wrong, they’re your feelings. Pay attention to what they’re telling you and use them to live a positive life. Remember that you deserve to be with someone who genuinely cares for you and treats you wonderfully. You’re that important.

I Didn’t Want to Go as Far as He Did

The Relationship Question

I’ve been seeing this guy for a short time but we both agreed that, whenever we’re together, we’re happier than either of us can remember. We recently became intimate but I didn’t want to go as far as he did. He said he respects me for that. Now he’s stopped talking to me all together. I thought we really liked each other, why would he stop talking to me suddenly?

The Relationship Advice

Thank you for sharing your situation. It’s hard to tell what anyone is thinking in a relationship unless they tell you. It’s always a good idea to pay close attention to how people behave. The way he behaves now is likely to be how he behaves in the future.

Perhaps you might take some time to think about what you want to ask him or what you would like to learn about him. Then talk calmly and kindly with him about what you’re thinking and feeling. Be brief, direct and friendly. Then listen to what he has to say without interrupting or reacting negatively. The idea is to listen to him so you can find out what’s going on in his mind.

Once you have more information you can decide what will help you move your life in a positive direction. In a healthy relationship, people are there for each other and don’t disappear suddenly. That’s why it’s always beneficial to get to know someone really well before making serious decisions in any relationship.

Remember that you deserve to date people who value who you are all the time, not just some of the time. You’re worth it.

I Hate His Lies

The Relationship Question

I’ve been in a long distance relationship for the last five years. A couple of days ago, my boyfriend cheated on me for the first time. He kissed a girl and pictures were taken. He keeps on denying it, but his friends betrayed him and, even though they were told not to speak, they finally did. I hate his lies more than his betrayal. I wasn’t expecting it at all but everyone’s saying that, because of the problems he’s coping with these days, he can do that sort of thing. He has family problems and drinks a lot. Help.

The Relationship Advice

Thank you for sharing your situation. It’s very important to pay attention to how people behave in a relationship. The way they act now is likely to be what they do in the future.

You get to decide how you want to be treated in a relationship and what’s best for you. It’s always a good idea to treat yourself well and move your life in a positive direction. Perhaps you might take some time to evaluate the situation and your history with him in general and decide what you want to do.

You might consider talking with him and letting him know how you feel and what you need. Make sure to listen to him as well, without interrupting or reacting negatively. Gather information so you can decide what you want to do next. Remember that you deserve to be with someone who treats you well and wants to be with you exclusively. You’re worth it.