The Relationship Question
I was in an international long-distance relationship for four years, I even travelled overseas and stayed with him for a week. There was never any concern over infidelity, adultery or anything of the kind. Our relationship was strong, we communicated well and were devoted to each another. He put our relationship on hold due to personal issues he had in his own life. I understood, painfully, and attempted to comfort myself. I felt used, pushed away, and discouraged and I began to think I would never love anyone as much as I loved him. Two months ago he contacted me and wanted to get back together, but I felt we had drifted too far apart and live so far away from each other. In the meantime, I met someone new who I am not in love with but who I am interested in. What should I do? Should I go back to him?
The Relationship Advice
Thank you for sharing your situation. You get to decide what kind of relationship you want and with whom. Perhaps you might ask yourself a few questions to clarify what you want to do, such as:
- What kind of relationship do I want?
- How do I want to be treated?
- What does each person’t behavior tell me about how they will behave in the future?
- What would be the effect of any decision I might make?
- What decision can I make that will help me treat myself well and move my life in a positive direction?
- What things am I doing to make sure I’m the healthiest and most balanced person possible without a significant other in my life?
Asking yourself questions like these will help you decide what you want to do. The key is to make decisions that help you move in a positive direction and enjoy healthy relationships. It’s also a good idea to pay attention to how people have behaved in the past because it signals what they’re likely to do in the future.
Remember that you deserve to be in a relationship with someone who treats you wonderfully and helps you live a positive life.