The Relationship Question
Me and my really close best guy friend used to talk for hours, now we have nothing to talk about. Every 5 minutes it's like, "Hi, whats up?" "Nothing, you?" "Same..." and it basically goes on like that. Please help me! What are some good things to talk about? Examples please? Thanks.
The Relationship Advice
Thank you for sharing your situation. One of the most positive ways to keep a conversation going in a relationship is to ask questions and listen to the answers. It’s also important to realize that conversations don’t have to be amazing or exciting all the time, sometimes they’re just basic.
You might try the following exercise together:
- Ask the person a question that doesn’t lead to a yes or a no answer and is meaningful to you.
- Listen to the answer.
- If the other person has nothing to say then, no problem, just ask another question.
- The other person gets to do the same thing.
- Don’t force the conversation or try to move it in any certain direction, just let it happen. If it doesn’t, tell the person you really care about them and that you look forward to talking the next time.
- Keep practicing.
Keep in mind that neither of you has to act a certain way or say something brilliant, just be yourselves, listen to each other and learn about each other. If it seems like things aren’t working out well, ask a question about that and listen to what the other person has to say.
As far as the talking part, think in terms of just hanging out with a friend and telling them about things that are meaningful and important to you. Share your feelings with each other and be there for each other. Give each other space if appropriate. Remember that you both deserve to be yourselves, talk about important things and listen to each other.