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He Looks Away When He Sees Me

He Looks Away When He Sees Me

The Relationship Question

I dated one of my best friends. It didn’t go well because he got too controlling and wanted to be around me all the time. We tried to be friends but it didn’t really work. We see each other a lot but we don’t talk, we act like we don’t see each other even though we do see each other. He always looks away when he sees me. We haven’t talked in a few years and I tried clearing the air, not sure yet of the outcome but I don’t get why he always hides from me even though he has a girlfriend.

The Relationship Advice

Thank you for sharing your situation. You can’t do anything about how other people behave in any relationship, it’s up to them to decide what they want to do. People don’t always know how to behave when they’re in a difficult situation or feel uncomfortable.

You get to decide how you behave and it’s always a good idea to treat yourself well and move your life in a positive direction. You might consider letting him know what you’re thinking in a kind and friendly way and then moving on. Give him time to think. If he wants to be in contact with you he’ll come around; if not, you’re still a great person.

One of the biggest lessons in life is that we can’t control how other people behave. The key is to find people who value the real you, treat you well and want to spend time with you. You’re worth it.

He Doesn’t Trust Me

He Doesn’t Trust Me

The Relationship Question

I was in a long-distance relationship for three years and we broke up two months ago. During this time I hooked up with a friend. My ex-boyfriend recently started talking to me and he wants to get back together, but because of what I did he doesn’t trust me. He wants to wait a couple of months to get back together. I don’t know how to proceed. I don’t think its fair to ask me to be single until he comes home, but I also don’t want to lose him. Please help!

The Relationship Advice

Thank you for sharing your situation. The only person who can tell you how to behave is you. You get to decide what you think is appropriate and what’s right for you. You might want to take some time to think about how you want to be treated in a relationship, what’s important to you in a partner and what you want in a relationship.

Sometimes people accept certain behaviors in exchange for the other person “liking them” or “not leaving them.” This usually leads to worrying about not being liked or being left.

You get to tell other people how to treat you and you decide what you want to do in this situation. You might find it helpful to make a list of the things that are important to you in a relationship and decide whether your current situation meets your needs. Remember that you deserve to have someone in your life who encourages you to be you and doesn’t make you feel bad.

Also make sure that you make decisions that help you take care of yourself and lead in a positive direction. You’re worth it.

Guy Not Ready for a Relationship

Guy Not Ready for a Relationship

The Relationship Question

I like one of my guy friends and he likes me back but he said he’s not ready for a relationship yet. The problem is that he may have commitment problems because he has never been in a relationship before. How do I handle this or what should I do?

The Relationship Advice

Thank you for sharing your situation. It’s always important to get to know someone really well before considering starting a relationship. That includes being aware of their behavior patterns because, the way they’ve behaved in the past is likely what they’ll do in the future.

Think about what kind of relationship you want and how you want to be treated. You might consider whether you want to go out with someone who says he’s not ready for a relationship and has never had one. It’s up to you what you do but it’s always a good idea to build relationships with people who are ready to commit to you and treat you wonderfully.

Remember that you deserve to be with someone who understands how valuable you are and is willing to build a meaningful relationship with you.

Talking about Fooling Around

Talking about Fooling Around

The Relationship Question

My best friend is a guy and I have know him forever, many years. I’ve liked him for a long time but have not said anything because I don’t want to ruin the friendship or make it awkward. The last year or so, our friendship changed a little we started talking about “fooling around” with each other and he has been flirtatious. Nothing has really happened yet, mostly because I am hesitant to do anything because I don’t want to ruin the friendship. The subject of us being together never comes up. I am afraid to tell him I like him and he hasn’t said anything to me. It’s very hard to tell if he just wants to fool around and feels like we are comfortable enough to do that. As long as I have known him he never seemed like the type of person who would just hook up with someone he wasn’t dating or that he didn’t like. I don’t know if I should say something to him. I feel like just because he wants to “do stuff” with me doesn’t mean he likes me in that way. What should i do? Thanks.

The Relationship Advice

Thank you for sharing your situation. The idea in any relationship is to make sure you do things to treat yourself well and move in a positive direction. That means not doing anything you’re not comfortable with. Perhaps you might ask yourself a few questions to clarify what you want to do, such as:

  • What kind of relationship do I want?
  • How do I want to be treated?
  • What do I need to learn about this person so I can make a positive decision?
  • What can I do to make sure I’m taking care of myself?
  • What do I really want to do?

Take some time to think about questions like these and you’ll eventually figure out what you want to do. It’s also OK to talk about these things with him. Think about what you want to tell him or ask him and then have some kind and calm conversations. Listen to him carefully to decide if his point of view works for you. You can also tell him how you feel if you’d like. The more conversations you have the easier it will be for you to decide what you want to do.

You get to decide what you want in any relationship. Always keep in mind that you deserve to be with someone who appreciates who you are and is willing to commit to you.

Girlfriend Gets Jealous

Girlfriend Gets Jealous

The Relationship Question

My girlfriend gets jealous that I like or comment on another women’s Facebook profiles, she even dislikes me texting them. What should I do?

The Relationship Advice

Thank you for your question. It’s up to you to decide what you want to do and how you behave toward others. Perhaps you might consider what direction your behaviors lead in your relationship. The goal is to behave in ways that lead in a positive direction so you can both feel great and enjoy life.

You might find it helpful to take some time to think about how you want to behave in a relationship and what the effects of those behaviors might be. The choices you make will affect the types of interactions that you experience. Remember that a positive relationship is one where both people are happy with each other’s behaviors.